It’s safe to say everyone craves feeling understood, right?
It took me a long time of working as a hairstylist to realize that the biggest factor of my success was my communication.
And when I say that I mean, learning how to communicate. It wasn’t something I was ever taught or something I knew to be important. I just assumed (that’s a scary word to use and something I’ve learned I should never do) that people knew what I was talking about and if they didn’t it wasn’t my fault, it was theirs for not understanding.
It sucks. Just last week I was sitting on my couch trying to get some work done and I was suddenly so frustrated. You know that feeling when you want to throw something across the room or break something but instead you burst into tears because it's just too much?
Yeah, that was me. A crying mess, teardrops staining my beautiful tan leather couch. Both Nick and Leroy were staring at me, not really sure if they should console me or be terrified of me.
This past week I got sick, probably thanks to a combo of Calgary's up and down weather and running myself a bit too hard. I have this habit of getting excited and biting off more than I can chew, and I think it just caught up with me.
So when I saw what I’d planned to write about for today’s post I laughed.
I’d written down “When you don't have time to do all the things” on my content calendar. On a day when I’d run myself into the ground by trying to do all the things.
Earlier this year, I did an Instagram live about my creative process, and I shared that I like to use mantras to help keep my mind focused and on track.
It was one of those moments when I said something in passing, assuming no one would care or even listen to such a tiny detail, and I got a huge response! A bunch of people wanted to know about my mantras. Months later, I STILL get message about this.
I came to this retreat alone, which is something that definitely isn't natural for me, but I am committing keep doing because of a greater purpose. So as I nervously walked up to the icebreaker cocktail hour, I beelined it for the bar to get me some liquid courage.
Then I pushed past the discomfort to start chatting with strangers. Little did I know some of the amazing friendships that would come out of this weekend!
I know what works for me, and my way doesn't have to work for everyone.
You might be facing a tough decision in your own business, and you might be confused by all the advice out there telling you what you “should” do. It might be good advice, or your gut might be telling you to do something completely different.
If I’ve learned anything from years of working in the beauty industry, it’s the importance of asking the right questions.
The most important skill you can learn as a stylist is to make sure you and your clients are on the same page. After all, there’s nothing worse than feeling like you did a kickass job on someone’s hair and then realizing they hate it!
Rarely are there shorts cut to success, and even if it appears as so, often times there are years of trial and error that you haven’t witnessed. I’ve learned that timing can be everything, and sometimes it’s just not my time. And even though it may be someone else’s time doesn’t take anything away from me.
As I sauntered into the gym for the first practice, I stopped by the office door to double check the list. Not really too worried, my eyes scanned that piece of paper fairly quickly, and then again more slowly. My name wasn't on the list.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react.
I remember seeing this quote as a kid and not really getting it. But the more life unfolds I realize how much my quality of life is controlled by my response to it. Recognizing that what is happening is only a fraction of the equation and the real power is in my response.
The conversation went great, I was proud of myself for speaking truthfully and honestly and into the discomfort instead of assuming, being vague and feeling hurt in the end out of my own lack of communication.
My salon is a sacred space, a space for women to be heard and validated beyond their hair. I have created a consultation process to ensure we are not only hearing each other but we are being understood. We are connecting.