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This week, we’re getting right into it with my anxiety journey.
You probably know that anxiety is a big thing for me. I was always a shy, nervous kid, and those traits stayed with me through my teens and into adulthood as I developed full-blown anxiety.
In this episode, I chat with my boyfriend Nick about one of my all-time favorite topics: communication.
Nick is a minister, which means he has to communicate a lot with staff, volunteers, and the people in his congregation. With lots of practice, trial, and error, he’s learned a thing or two about communicating.
I’m so excited for you guys to meet one of my favorite people ever, Constance Robbins!
Constance reached out to me on Instagram about three years ago and we were instant friends. (Wow, just realized I make a lot of friends on Instagram!)
Constance is a California girl and just opened a gorgeous, all-white, 1300 square foot salon. Pretty cool, right? She’s been a hairstylist for about 15 years and is a freaking badass colorist! (Check out her Instagram page, seriously).
A few weeks back, my American twin, Shirley Hagel had me on her podcast. I had such a fun time I just had to share it over here with you guys. We chat about how we randomly found each other, plus she asked me about parts of my career I’ve never shared online before, like working for Aveda..
Okay, I’m going to go out on a limb here:
I bet a lot of you don’t have boundaries.
That’s exactly how I used to be. I lived most of my life not even knowing what boundaries were. If someone asked something of me, I had to say yes. I didn’t even know “no” was an option, and I doubt I’m on the only one.
It sucks. Just last week I was sitting on my couch trying to get some work done and I was suddenly so frustrated. You know that feeling when you want to throw something across the room or break something but instead you burst into tears because it's just too much?
Yeah, that was me. A crying mess, teardrops staining my beautiful tan leather couch. Both Nick and Leroy were staring at me, not really sure if they should console me or be terrified of me.
In this episode, I’m chatting with Pamela Adam. She’s a hair stylist, mom, and one of the sweetest people I know.
I met Pamela about two years ago when I taught a class at the salon where she works, and we just hit it off!
In this very special episode, I chat with my very own therapist, McKenzie!
I’ve been seeing McKenzie for 2-3 years (neither of us can quite remember, lol). I started seeing her after ending up in the hospital with a panic attack. McKenzie specializes in treating anxiety and trauma with talk therapy and other methods like EMDR.
Earlier this year, I did an Instagram live about my creative process, and I shared that I like to use mantras to help keep my mind focused and on track.
It was one of those moments when I said something in passing, assuming no one would care or even listen to such a tiny detail, and I got a huge response! A bunch of people wanted to know about my mantras. Months later, I STILL get message about this.
You asked, and now I’m going to deliver!
I came to this retreat alone, which is something that definitely isn't natural for me, but I am committing keep doing because of a greater purpose. So as I nervously walked up to the icebreaker cocktail hour, I beelined it for the bar to get me some liquid courage.
Then I pushed past the discomfort to start chatting with strangers. Little did I know some of the amazing friendships that would come out of this weekend!
I absolutely loved talking with my fellow anxious creative, Gina, way back in episode 13. So of course, I had to have her back for an encore!
This time, our conversation is all about dealing with social anxiety when you’re an entrepreneur, a stylist, and when your livelihood depends on talking to people.
My chest felt tight, breathing was difficult, and my heart was pounding. I thought I was dying.
Turns out, it was just a severe panic attack.
We're getting back to the Overshare! Do you remember my first episode of my podcast? Back when it was called "Overshared in the Salon Chair"?! I'm bringing Becky back to chat!
This episode is all about the week I did the unthinkable: I turned my phone OFF, put it in the glovebox of my car, and unplugged for a whole week.
Seven whole days, sans phone and internet. I know, nuts right?
I lived most of my life not even knowing what boundaries were.
I used to get so upset at clients for texting me late at night, or texting me at all, when I had told them about online booking.
This week I sit down with Mallory Chapman. She's a kick ass entrepreneur in the wellness industry. She has brought surfing to us landlocked Calgarians and wins us over with her amazing outlook on life and positive attitude.
About 3 weeks ago, Nick and I went for a walk in a neighbourhood that we love and have dreamt about living in. As we walked, we dreamed of buying a home in inner city Calgary where we would be able to walk and bike everywhere.
I interview my client Jessica. When she was just 6 years old her Mom packed up her and her two sisters and left an abusive marriage. They came to Calgary where they lived in a women's shelter for 3 months. Her story is powerful and full of courage and bravery.
It affirmed again why I am in this industry. It's so much more than just hair. It’s about connections and community and to have women know their worth and value.
If you follow me on instagram you may have heard my story before. 4 years ago I took the biggest risk of my life.
Yesterday while walking Leroy with my boyfriend I started reflecting on it. I think my exact words were "Holy shit I really just went for it, didn't I? I was so sure of myself. That's the wildest thing I've ever done"
This week's episode I have my friend Gina Devine on to talk about how we do life as anxious creatives.
Gina has been a creative her whole life, growing up in salons (her mom is a stylist) and going to fine art school she is a true artist. But like me, don't ask her to cook you a meal, it ain't gonna happen.
The podcast is getting a make over! Or at least a new name. Listen in while I chat with you guys about the new name and why I’m so passionate about it. This one is probably my most vulnerable yet. I walk you through some of my experiences that have brought me to where I am now and why I’m so passionate about helping others. Thanks for listening in.
Anyone else feel last week was extra long and hard? I couldn't sleep, I felt sluggish, and my anxiety was sitting higher than it usually does. This happens every once in a while for me.
After speaking with a few friends and realizing it wasn't just me feeling this way, I thought I'd share with you all 4 ways I keep my anxiety in check.
Is it hot in here?!? While doing my friend and client Tiana's extensions I ask her all the burning questions I’ve always wondered about her industry. What’s the difference between a prostitute and an escort? What was her first appointment like? Knowing what she knows now would she still do it? Eavesdrop in on our conversation and learn everything you ever wondered, but have been too shy to ask.
Friendships, they can be tough! I chat with my good friend Lizzie all about it. What makes friendships work, and what doesn’t. Letting go of toxic friends and how we’ve managed to maintain our friendship while both running businesses and living so far apart.
Nick and I are back for week two. We get a bit more serious on this one, sharing about the struggles of communication, doing long distance and everyday life as a couple. But don’t worry, there’s still some laughs, especially when we chat about how we first said I love you.
Come hang out at my kitchen table while I sit down with my boyfriend and chat over drinks. We talk all about how we met, long distance dating, and my most awkward moments in our relationship. Get ready to laugh. This episode won't disappoint.
As I sauntered into the gym for the first practice, I stopped by the office door to double check the list. Not really too worried, my eyes scanned that piece of paper fairly quickly, and then again more slowly. My name wasn't on the list.
Dawn and her client, Hilary, bond over starting their own business but quickly get into talking about failures in the kitchen and at home, which revolve around Dawn's lack of domestic skills. They laugh over each other's stories and end by discussing the quirks of family dynamics.
Learning my thresholds and being able to listen to my body to know what its needs has been tough. I used to push myself past these times thinking that I was weak, or lazy. That some how I needed to 'keep up' with some unrealistic expectation I had set out for myself.